Monday, July 13, 2009

Fun Weekend passing the time

So this weekend we went up North to the cottages to check some people in on Friday. It was a beautiful sunset.
Then we left on Saturday to go to a wedding and have some fun

And we were having fun playing with our friends kids who were the flower girls. Although I am not in any of these pictures because I am usually the picture taker and when I see a moment like the ones below I run for my camera.

And yes these are two twins as the flower girls. They are going to be 6 in August.
We had a great time. Trying to pass the time to make August 6th come a bit quicker so I got some stuff going on . We are going on our vacation up north on July 25th to August 2 for a week like we do every year. We have Tim's family and friends even the 2 flower girls above are going. There older sister Melissa actually stood up in our wedding when she was 4 which this is pretty cute to see. So I am looking forward to vacation and then when we get back I am going to have to re clean my house now that we will get home and have laundry and such and have it ready and baby proof for this new social worker to come over so we can do a second home study since we switched our agencies. I know I had people as about this but we switched because DHS did more adoptions a year then our other agency. They say they do about 50 adoptions a year verses our other agency that does 3 to 5 a year. Not only that but DHS will let us adopt from any state and the age is any age versus our agency that is 0-2 years old. Like they said they only do infants but are licenced to do 0-2 years old. We are pretty open to even older. Maybe 4 or 5. We are pretty open minded and I felt with DHS they were pretty open too and didn't have many stipulations.
I forgot to mention at the wedding I had people come up to us when we were playing with the flower girls asking when we were having kids. I explained to them our situation and how we would love to adopt. Then I heard two people say to me what if you adopt and then get pregnant. I was kind of taken back that someone would ask that but I thought that would be obvious. We would have 2 kids and all would be wonderful. We always wanted two kids and we would be complete. Then after I thought I answered honestly and from my heart and they got it YES they asked well how would you treat them both. I couldn't believe it but I kept my composure and put a smile on my face and said I wouldn't love one more then the other. I explained that when we finally adopt a baby that baby is going to mean the world to me. We have been waiting this child for such a long time they would be so special to us. We feel this child in our heart. I explained the baby doesn't have to come from me, we love children and any child is a blessing and should be treated like one with all the love in the world. They said wow I guess I never knew someone who adopted before. I then explained to keep us in mind if any scenario came up but I guess if they don't know anyone who adopted I am not sure how far I will get with that but then I started hearing some people say that you write a letter and send it to all your friends and family about your journey to adopt in case a scenario came up. I thought we told everyone but I guess it wouldn't hurt to send a letter. I never heard of that but I was wondering how do write one. I don't want it to sound weird or desperate. I want to get our point across without someone asking why we are sending it. I was wondering if anyone sent one to there family and friends and what do you write or even how do you start a letter like that. It is kind of intimidating. If you have followed my previous blog you know I don't quite. I will do everything I can to have my dream to be a mom and a family. I have sent fliers in the colleges and I have put fliers in the hospitals and put info in the news paper. I am even blogging which I would never guess I would do because I am not computer savvy but I am getting better at this I am just now finally posting pictures. But I am trying everything I can to make my dream come true. I can not wait for that special day when I get that call. But until then the wait will Begin. The whole thing of waiting until we have our home study done again I feel like I am starting at the beginning. I read that blog Heart Cries and it puts a smile on my face and gives me inspiration that my day will come to be a mom. I always try to think that there is a baby out there or being formed right now for me but you never know. I keep my heart on my sleeve sometimes and I think that is how I get hurt. I know now that adoption is a roller coaster of emotions as invetro was but I hope god hears my cries. I try not to preach on this website to much about faith because I know everyone has there own beliefs and I don't want to preach to anyone but I do pray every night that the baby for Tim and I is out there and that we will get that life changing call but until then please hang in there with me. :)


  1. We went through DHS, and have no complaints. I know some people had bad experiences, but I also know people who went through private agencies, and then waited, if you dont get a complete stinker of a worker things can move along for you. Its a tough tough road for sure, tougher for some than others. We were one of the lucky ones...but keep praying, it will happen when its time!

  2. we opened our ages from 0-10 and got a 2 and 5 yr old =) I've been asked to about if we have a bio child would we love it more...ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! My adoptive kids are my life and I no longer even care about having a bio child- I would not change 1 thing about my struggles because then it would mean I may not have the kids I do now

  3. Wow, that sunset is gorgeous!
    People who have never adopted will never understand those who do. They think that adopting gives you some right to a miracle of pregnancy. It doesn't. Sure they might know someone who had that happen, BUT I can name dozens of couples who adopted and DIDN'T become pregnant. I just try to politely correct these people that infertility affects 1 out of 10 couples and only 2% of the couples that do adoption will go on to have their own children. Sure it would be nice, but really all we want is to be mothers and we are just taking a different path to get there.
    Also when they ask if I could love an adopted child not of my DNA, I point out the fact that I fell in love with my husband and we have NO DNA in common.
    I have heard of sending a letter out too. We keep meaning to do it, but we just haven't gotten around to it. I know at one time I had a copy of someone else's. I will look for it and if I can find it, I will email it to you. But I'm not sure if I still do. Also if we ever get our done, I will send you a copy. I hope to do a short letter and very briefly explain we can't have children. Then I want to talk about how much we love adoption and how it is already changing our lives. Then I would point out that every one always knows someone who is pregnant and that's why we need family and friends to help us find our child. I also want to include a few pass along cards in the letter for them to put up at work or to pass around.

    Good luck!

  4. Hi Sue... My name is Julie. My husband and I are on a similar journey... waiting to adopt a baby. I enjoyed reading your posts and can relate to many of the experienced you have shared. It is not an easy road to travel. There are so many ups and downs... I wish it were easier.

    If you would like to be added to my blog, please email me

    I made my blog private, instead of creating a new blog, because of similar reasons you shared in one of your posts.

    I look forward to following your journey!!!
    Julie G :)