tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8284510690150829663.post6090633974738314555..comments2023-04-30T01:32:35.679-07:00Comments on From the Stork: In good times and in bad adoptionFrom the Stork; An adoption Journeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10038726242362316249noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8284510690150829663.post-63125110559873558642010-12-23T09:15:22.262-08:002010-12-23T09:15:22.262-08:00Poor little guy sounds very confused and angry.
I ...Poor little guy sounds very confused and angry.<br />I know it seems like he is wiser than his years but I'm sure you know that he really is only 6 and right now I think he is testing you. He is testing whether you are permanently in his life and the way it is coming out is hurtful to you. :( <br />Secondly while I am sure your son is happy to be in your family, it sounds like he is still grieving his old one. I think grief truly does come in stages and takes a long time for a small child to process. My only advice is to keep wearing your thick skin and try not to take his grief personally.<br />Being relinquished is sad. Being adopted is happy. Sometimes those issues can get confused.<br />His grief isn't about you. It's about losing his bio family. That's a hard one to process when you are just a little guy.<br />I'm wondering if it is possible for you and your husband to meet with a counselor (without your son) who can help you both get on the same page with handling his tough questions. I'm sure it would be easier if you both have a patent standard answer to his really tough questions.<br />I agree that adopting an older child must be really trying at times. It sounds like all of you have been through quite a lot. I hope it gets better soon.Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12635877618193159522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8284510690150829663.post-13408163147705349842010-12-13T08:52:00.371-08:002010-12-13T08:52:00.371-08:00Have you heard of the book "I Love You Stinky...Have you heard of the book "I Love You Stinky Face"? I think you should invest in it and read it to him everyday. It's a littler kids book, but it is a way for hiim to hear how you feel about him. Our little one is 4, nearly 5, and he has been saying hurtful things to us too. We've had him for nearly a year and are about to finalize. Since reading the book to him, he has been asking different questions instead of being hurtful. He has asked us how much we love him and if it's really going to last...Just a thought. We'll keep your family in our prayers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8284510690150829663.post-51645280208676498312010-12-13T07:51:20.705-08:002010-12-13T07:51:20.705-08:00I promise to come back later when I have more time...I promise to come back later when I have more time and read your post, but I just wanted to comment back on the comment you left me. <br /><br />We haven't officially decided on a childfree life, but it is something we talk very seriously about. Right now we consider it as "taking a break" but we don't know when or if that break will end.<br /><br />I've realized that all the stuff I have is just stuff. Having all the baby stuff in the world doesn't make me a mom. I also feel that right now it brings more pain then joy so its time to let it go. If we do become parents in the furute, it is all stuff we can buy and we would be excited to buy stuff for a baby so, to me, its not a big deal if I get rid of the baby stuff. That room has been unused for 4 years which just reminds how much of life I have missed because I put it on hold along with the rest of my life. There is a few baby blankets I'm going to hold onto for now. They are the items I have that seem to have meaning to me and when I think about giving them away it breaks my heart, so for now, I will hold onto those.Savannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17584445611402346917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8284510690150829663.post-12413144600362620562010-12-12T13:04:48.393-08:002010-12-12T13:04:48.393-08:00You're doing a great job, hang in there! This ...You're doing a great job, hang in there! This road is not for the faint of heart...<br /><br />To answer your question, the agency I'm working with is still in the process of getting licensed. I think it should be complete into the new year. I'll let you know when they're "live". I really stand behind their mission and the way they're approaching foster adoption.Rebekahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11920816691217676013noreply@blogger.com