tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8284510690150829663.post4657681503666047268..comments2023-04-30T01:32:35.679-07:00Comments on From the Stork: something to think about Please tell me what you think about the info nowFrom the Stork; An adoption Journeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10038726242362316249noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8284510690150829663.post-61618718496141866672011-04-16T20:01:13.935-07:002011-04-16T20:01:13.935-07:00I am an absolute sucker for sibling groups. I can...I am an absolute sucker for sibling groups. I can't help it. I feel so bad for kids who are split up if they don't have to be. I still feel guilt over not taking the siblings of my four. <br /><br />With that said...this one is tough. If you feel like they will do everything they can to keep the children together and you can't take all three I would say it is too much of a risk. <br />The reason I say that is you have to realize that is possibly a year that you will not be able to take any other placements. And in the end most likely not be able to adopt the children you will love and want to keep. If your goal is to adopt and not foster then you have to think about this aspect of the situation.<br /><br />In all honesty, I think it will be hard for them to find a home for all three with a 10 year old in the sibling group. But, then on the other hand it might be the only way the 10 year old will be adopted. People are leery of older children from foster care but there are some wonderful children that given a chance will fit right in and be such a joy to parent. <br /><br />I really wish you could give this 10 year old little girl a chance to be in your home with her two other siblings. But, I completely understand. You are young and new parents and it would be a huge undertaking.<br /><br />I wish I could tell you what to do. Really, I do. I would be cautious simply because they haven't been completely honest with you from the beginning and that is not a good way to start out with new kids. But it is just how it is. You really can't blame them because they mean well. Their goal is to find good homes for the kids.<br /><br />At least they thought you and your husband would be a good home for all three children. They wouldn't have called you twice about these same kids if they didn't. <br /><br />Just make sure that whatever you do...you and your hubby are on the same page. In complete agreement. You will need his help and you don't want to take on 2 more children without his support or him having resentment about the situation. This is so key when taking hurt children. <br /><br />Being a mom is hard work but being a mom to hurt children is so much harder. <br /><br />Pray. Get as much info as you can. Pray. Talk to hubby. Pray. Come to a point of complete peace before giving an answer.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18183426821328179143noreply@blogger.com